Factors For Relationship Compatibility

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6 Surprising Predictors of Relationship Compatibility

Many of us think we know which traits we want our ideal partner to have. Yet for some reason we often find ourselves attracted to people who possess none of those qualities. Sometimes we meet potential mates who seem perfect on paper but with whom we have no immediate spark. Other times we feel instant chemistry but end up with an incompatible long-term partner.

 

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Attraction may feel natural, but that doesn’t mean it’s random. To figure out how we choose romantic partners, scientists have done everything from study symmetry of the human face to observe subconscious reactions to the smell of armpit sweat. If there were a formula for lasting love, what percentage of human compatibility can we credit to our behavior and what percentage is simple biology?

 

Surprisingly, research shows that attraction and compatibility can be predicted early on by interpreting some remarkable biological clues. Some signs of attraction and compatibility are obvious, but many may amaze you. Here are 6 surprising predictors that sparks will fly:

 

1. DNA: Your genes matter more than your jeans.

 

According to the biotechnology research company Instant Chemistry, up to 40% of physical attraction is determined by your genes. We are biologically programmed to feel that instant “spark” with someone who has a different genetic makeup than our own, and research shows that genetically compatible partners are more likely to make it work long-term.

 

“But not only do biologically compatible partners produce children with strong immune systems, these couples also enjoy more satisfying sex lives, greater marital stability, and increased fertility rates—and they find each other more attractive!” Instant Chemistry reports.

 

2. Facial features: The eyes (and more) have it.

 

The shape and angle of a person’s face provides insight into reproductive health. Evolutionary biologist Randy Thornhill of the University of New Mexico explains that estrogen influences bone growth in a woman’s face and chin, leading to moderately small and short facial features and prominent eyes. Men’s faces are shaped by testosterone, which results in a larger face and jaw and a more prominent brow. The prevalence of these traits advertises reproductive health, which makes a person seem more attractive to the opposite sex.

 

3. Smell: Your perfect match might be right under your nose.

 

Human odor preferences are shaped by sexual selection, and we are evolutionarily inclined to be sensitive to odor cues. Human sweat carries a lot of information about a person’s gender, genetic compatibility, and reproductive state. Those who maintain a good diet, an indicator of overall health, smell healthier and are more attractive to others. In fact, a team of biologists from the Czech Republic recently found that subjects who ate garlic, which is chock-full of antioxidants, smelled more attractive—ironically!

 

4. Language: What did you say?

 

Studies show that people who use the same kinds of function words (pronouns and conjunctions) when speaking are more likely to be a successful match. After looking at speed-dating results, researchers found a link between function-word similarity and the speed-daters’ odds of going on a second date, as well as couples’ odds of staying together three months after the experiment. Interestingly, language similarity turned out to be an even more accurate predictor of Relationship Compatibility when compared to other factors such as “perceived similarity with one’s date, perceived relationship quality, and how many words people spoke to each other during conversation,” according to a study by Texas Tech University.

 

5. Color: Red is the new black.

 

There’s a reason why red is the color of love and passion. Research shows that both men and women perceive people wearing the color red as powerful, strong, and dominant. Studies also show that the color can produce physical responses like increased heart rate and heightened sense of smell. For women, the color red enhances a man’s attractiveness. Researchers from the University of Rochester found that female study participants even rated the same man as more attractive after seeing him against a red backdrop. Men in another study gave higher tips to waitresses wearing red.

 

But where does the link between red and sexual attraction originate? Scientists think it’s associated with physical signs of sexual excitement like redness in the erogenous areas and facial blushing. In addition, strong blood flow and high testosterone levels in men often produce a reddish tone to the skin. The color itself seems to have evolved into a sign of reproductive health and potential.

 

6. Voice pitch: It’s not what you say but how you say it.

 

If you’ve ever wondered why women swoon over men with low-pitched voices, it’s because we tend to associate men with deep baritones with larger bodies. In contrast, results of a study from University College London showed that male listeners preferred higher-pitched, breathier female voices, which they associated with a smaller body size. Deep male voices and high-pitched female voices are perceived as more attractive because of this association with body size.

 

Needless to say, the rules of attraction are complex, involving much more than good looks and a witty pickup line. Hot or not, research shows that your body knows what you’re attracted to better than you do! If you’re looking for love, you can put on a red shirt, eat some garlic, and hope for the best. Or you can follow the roadmap to love that’s already in your DNA. After all, while love is not an exact science, you may have had the clues to finding it all along.

 

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Facts About Men

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#6 Life is Lonesome


For Single Men The bar graph here speaks out loud for single men. It clearly shows that single men must be finding it very difficult to get laid, for a maximum number of them have sex just once a month or even less. In contrast, men who are in a relationship fare make love once a week, with a slightly lower percentage scoring around 2-3 times a week. Men and promiscuity are synonymous- a fact amply proved by the pie chart in the picture. Just 9% of the men have had a single partner, whereas 38% said they have had anywhere between 2-10 lovers. Twelve percent of the men even said that they have had more than 50 partners!





#5 V-Day Celebrations


A Survey Just a quick glimpse through the graphic presentation of the data in this picture shows you that Valentine’s Day certainly calls for celebrations among people. After all, according to the survey, 72% said that they would be celebrating the universal day of love. Sixty-six percent said that they would mark the occasion by taking their significant other out for a fancy dinner, while 50% said that they would make do with just flowers. But one important trend that the survey brought to light was that if individuals were in a relationship, a majority, 69% to be precise, expected sex only because it was Valentine’s Day.





#4 It’s safe to say men are lying if they say they don’t watch porn.


According to the pie chart in this image, a whopping majority of men, 82% to be precise, watch porn. Thirty-five percent of them watch it a few times per week whereas, 33% of them watch it a few times per month. For the avidity with which men seem to be watching porn, the next data comes as a bit of a surprise. 49% say that watching porn has had no effect on them. The rest either say that they have become better in bed, have unrealistic expectations from their partners or use it as a substitute for dating. Obviously, the former category of men is lying; the other three categories are being more truthful!





#3 Men do not like weird sex positions…or standing.


As per the data shown pictorially in this image, men prefer not to have sex in weird positions. They are more comfortable with the usually techniques and in fact, even do not like sex while standing. Thirty-one percent said that they like the cow-girl position while making love, followed by 29% who said they preferred the doggie-style of having sex. Also, 27% of the men said they enjoy sex in the missionary position. It also appears as if men are a visual lot who like shooting pictures and videos. Fifty seven percent of the men said they had shot their partners in their birthday suits while having sex.















#2 Some men definitely want that birth control pill


Men enjoy having sex, but like women do not unwanted pregnancies- a fact amply highlighted by the data given in this image. Fifty four percent of the men said that they would be happy to take a birth control pill, if one for males was available. 10% were a bit more cautious for they said they would take the pill if it caused no adverse side-effects. As far as self-consciousness during sex was concerned, while 43% of the men said that when naked they felt conscious about their stomachs, 39% remarked that they were too busy looking at their partners to be self-conscious at all. Whoever said that men were the shy type?





#1 But, basically…the survey says 99.9999% of men are liars…


Men are born liars, many have said this many a times. And they are quite right in saying so if this data given in the image is anything to go by. According to this survey, 48% of the men lied to women that they were interested in forging a lasting relationship with her to get her to bed. The percent of men giving other excuses such as having more money, being single and having a better job for wooing partners for sex was much less. This shows that where having sex is concerned, men know women’s biggest weakness- their emotional temperament.





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5 Things You Didnt Know Sex can do for your Career

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Having more sex has been linked to lower stress levels at work, and even higher pay.

You've probably heard the saying "sex sells," which is why sexy images appear so often in advertisements. But did you know sex can also improve your business and boost your career?
We often think of our business and personal lives as two entirely separate spheres, but in fact what happens at home and what happens at work often have overlapping effects. For instance, a stressful day at work can often send you home cranky, and workplace stress can elevate your blood pressure and cause everything from headaches to insomnia.


Similarly, happiness at home can have a calming effect at work, helping you make more clear-headed decisions and making you less likely to fall ill or feel overwhelmed with stress. Sure, sex sells, but it also has the power to improve your 9-to-5 life, whether you're a worker bee or the boss. Here are just a few ways a good sex life can turn your career around:


1. People who have sex get paid more. Apparently there are some outside-of-the-bedroom perks for having more sex. One of those perks is a higher paycheck, at least according to research from the Institute for the Study of Labor. The study found people who have sex at least four times a week make more money than their peers who get less busy. It seems the correlation lies in how those who have more sex tend to be both happier and healthier, leading to more enthusiasm at work, better decisions, and less discrimination, which in turn leads to higher paychecks.


2. Sex reduces stress and prolongs health. Sex is a major stress reduction agent, which means better health and fewer sick days. According to the book Your Doctor is Wrong by Sharon Norling, frequent orgasms can increase life expectancy by three to eight years. Plus, a study by Arizona State University showed sexual behavior with a partner correlated with lower negative mood and higher positive mood the following day in middle-aged women.


3. Sex produces immune system-boosting hormones, resulting in fewer sick days. Dehydroepiandrosterone (DHEA) is a hormone released during sexual encounters, and it has a whole host of benefits. Some of these include health benefits like reducing symptoms in women with lupus and alleviating depression. In fact, DHEA can even take years off your real age. According to a study by the Royal Edinburgh Hospital, people in their 40s who reported having 50 percent or more sex than their peers also appeared to be about seven to 13 years younger than their actual age when judged by a panel of strangers.


4. No more office migraines: Oxytocin is pain relief. Oxytocin, released during sex, is also important in pain relief. Often called the "love hormone," oxytocin is also released during labor in order to relieve pain. With its power to help relieve pain, the hormone could keep you feel healthier in the office.
5. Entrepreneurship can actually improve your sex life. Taking control of your own destiny by becoming an entrepreneur can be empowering--and it can empower more than just your career prospects. A recent survey of entrepreneurs found 14 percent reported having more sex after ditching their 9-to-5 job. So it works both ways--more sex can help your career with better health and higher wages, and finally breaking out on your own and following your entrepreneurial dreams can lead to more sex.


You might think your career and your sex life are completely separate entities, but what happens at home and at work can often intersect in interesting ways. By spending more time with your partner, you'll actually be improving your chances of getting that promotion or taking your business to the next level.


What do you think? Do you think there's a link between your career and your sex life? Share in the comments!

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Your choice of mate can make or break your career

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Photo by Nathan Harrison—Getty Images/Flickr RF

The most successful people in one study all went home at night to partners who exhibit a particular personality type: conscientiousness.

“Your husband, wife, or sweetheart probably doesn’t come to work with you every day,” says Brittany Solomon. “But his or her influence clearly does.”

Solomon, a Ph.D. candidate in psychology at Washington University in St. Louis, recently led a study analyzing the careers and personalities of about 5,000 married people, aged 19 to 89, over a five-year period. About 75% were in two-career couples.

The conclusion: Employees of both sexes who scored highest on three measures of occupational success—salary increases, promotions, and job satisfaction—all went home at night to mates with the personality type known as “conscientious.” These are people who are reliable, consistent, detail-oriented, and organized. The study, “The Long Reach of One’s Spouse: Spousal Personality Influences Occupational Success,” will be published in a forthcoming issue of the journal Psychological Science.

Note to singles: If you’re aiming high at work, you might want to settle down with someone conscientious. Psychologists often categorize people according to four other broad measures: openness, extraversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism. Although previous studies show that “people tend to look for a potential mate with a high degree of agreeableness and low neuroticism, our findings suggest that anyone with ambitious career goals would be better off looking for a supportive partner with a highly conscientious personality,” Solomon notes.

A mate’s conscientiousness boosts career success in three ways, the study found. First is what the researchers call “outsourcing,” which means it’s a lot easier to concentrate on your next brilliant idea at work if someone else can be counted on to make sure the dog has all his shots, the car gets inspected on time, and the kids are fed. Also, the ability to depend on a significant other cuts down on overall stress and makes work-life balance easier to manage, for men and women alike.

But beyond the day-to-day practicalities, a conscientious partner exerts a subtler, more pervasive influence. “Conscientious people tend to be resilient in the face of setbacks, and they’re thorough. They finish what they start,” says Solomon. “Over time, those traits can rub off on a spouse. People often unconsciously emulate those they live with—and the qualities we associate with ‘conscientious’ types are the same ones that lead to success in a career.”

by Anne Fisher          @anbfisher              October 1, 2014, 1:52 PM EDT   

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School Readiness for Boys

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Is He Ready for School?

Parents of 4, 5 and 6 year olds begin to wonder about first grade readiness: Is he ready for school? How is he ever going to be able to behave in school? He can�t sit still!

It is important to think about what schools are asking of children. The pace of education has increased. However, our brain structure and development has not changed since our brains evolved when we were hunters and gatherers.

What are we asking our children to do that they don�t actually have the brain structure and development yet to do?


When you observe kindergartners or first graders, the boys are typically 1 to 1.5 years behind the girls in their fine motor development, their ability to sit still, and their ability to follow directions.
Send him to school as late as possible! That way, he�ll be the oldest in his class. This will benefit him through all the years of school


An extra year of kindergarten is advisable. A rising trend in America, and more established in Europe, are outdoor kindergartens. This gives boys, especially, an opportunity to be outside, to be physical, learning in a way that suits him much more. It is better than teacher (93% chance she is female) saying, Here you are in the classroom, it�s time to sit still and learn.�

Another part of development is the language areas of his brain. They are slower to develop than girls. So, while there are girls in first grade who can write complete stories, follow sequences, and read, your boy may not be ready to read until second or third grade.


Of course, there are boys that read when they are 3 or 4, each child is different. But overall, trying to teach a 5 year-old boy to read is like teaching a 3.5 year-old to read! Can you image?! Developmentally his brain is not yet ready to process language, track words across a page, and be able to match sounds and symbols.

In school, we�re asking too much, too early, of many of our boys.


Having boys enter school before they are developmentally ready and attempting to teach them to read before they are ready, sets them up for failure from the beginning. In first grade, they feel school isn�t for them, they see the girls succeeding where they can�t - yet.

What are their alternatives to this stress? They become withdrawn. Or they get even more rambunctious, perhaps becoming the class clown because somehow they have to act out, to process what they�re feeling.
We see this pattern of failure manifest at the other end of school, too. Fewer males are graduating from high school than ever before. And even in college, here in America, only about 44% of the college population is male. The males that do go to college are less likely than their female counterparts to finish their degree program.
We�re setting them up for failure by putting them in school too soon.


10 Ways to Bring out his Best at School:


- Boys need to move. If he travels in a car or rides the bus to school, he needs to move before he enters the classroom.
- Arrive early and jump rope, play basketball, run around the block.
- Recess. While schools are shortening recess, it�s being shown that academic performance actually increases with more movement.










- Active learning. Lessons designed with an active learning component builds social relationships and increases memory retention.
- Water. Frequent sips of water reduce stress and hydrate the body and brain.
- Relevance. Boys want their learning to matter and they want to know how to apply it and how it will impact the world.
- Allow gross. Boys express themselves with different subject matter. We need to make blood and guts as acceptable as unicorns and flowers.
- Free time. The kind of free time you remember when summer days seemed to stretch endlessly because there was nothing on the schedule. Be sure to schedule in some quiet, free play time every day. He needs time to process his day.
- Nature. Nature is the antidote to all the stress of school, media, family dynamics, and just simply growing up. Time in nature is essential to healthy bodies and minds.
- Teachers. Gently bring them on board. Let them know about resources such as Boys Alive Bring Out Their Best! by Janet Allison and Boys and Girls Learn Differently by Michael Gurian. Both available at Amazon.

About The Author Janet Allison is an author, educator, family coach and speaker who interprets gender intelligence and brain based differences for parents and teachers. Find more videos with parenting and communication skills insights and practical strategies at http://www.boysalive.com

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