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Your last break up may have left a bad taste in your mouth and part of you might be giving up on love altogether. I believe that life is too short to be missing out on love, passion and romance and I do believe there’s always a way.
If you would like some tips for you to feel inspired again about the possibility of having a loving and fulfilling relationship, then read on..
1. Read some Success Stories
A great way for you to get inspired again, is to read some success stories about how other couples met online. As humans, we often relate to other people’s stories and by relating to someone’s personal story, you might see how the same outcome might be possible for you. Rather than feeling envious, remind yourself that there is no reason that you could experience the same outcome.Another thing to consider is for you to ask your married friends how they met their partner and what actually happened in the initial stages of dating. You might be surprised that there were instances where it wasn’t a ‘love at first sight’ kind of story.
We often assume that thing are always effortless and rosy at the beginning, which isn’t always the case. By you hearing more stories about how others met and what happened for them, it might give you a more broader perspective about the possibilities of meeting your ideal partner.
2. See Yourself Already Having it
I do believe there is a lot of truth in the saying “Energy flows to where your attention goes”. In other words, rather than you focusing on your feelings of negativity about men or dating, your past disappointments and your current lack of dates, why not focus on your desired outcome.One thing I’ll encourage my clients to do is to visit their desired outcome by visualizing it every single day. Create a clear vision around what having a fulfilling, passionate and loving relationship would look like.
How would you feel differently?
What would you partner say to you on your first romantic getaway?
How would you know you were with the right person for you?
Another great thing you could do is read out a statement form the perspective of already having your ideal relationship. For example:
“It’s February 2015 and I’m so grateful to be in a loving and committed relationship. I got here, because I allowed myself to trust and chose not to give up on love. I’m over the moon, I feel so loved.”
3. Create a Dating Strategy
Now you’re feeling re-inspired about your relationship goal, it’s time to create a plan of action. Having a plan will give you even more focus and therefore will give you more certainty. Working with a dating coach will definitely assist you here, especially when some of our resistance might come up.
In order to create a dating strategy, you could ask yourself:
What are the 3 most likely ways for me to meet my future partner?
Could my Mr Right potentially be online or am I more likely to meet him though mutual friends?
Come up with at least 3 ways to meet potential partners and make your goal a priority.
Part of the plan could be your scheduling times for potential dates. Your plan of action could be to aim for at least two new dates per week. Once your clear on your relationship goal, let your friends know and ask for support. Keep focused on your desired outcome and don’t give up, no matter what.
One of my favorite quotes is by poet Rumi, which states: “What you seek is seeking you.”
November 21, 2014 The Needs
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